It's the little things...

   Marriage is hard... There is no secret to that. Marriage is hard on its own, without remodeling a house or having a baby... However, there are things both the husband and wife can do on a daily basis to make it easy. I saw this, on Pinterest (of course) and just wanted to share. 

     Tyler and I have had to learned to build our relationship on the "here and now". Not on the past or past relationships that ended in disaster. We have leaned how to understand each other. What to argue about and what battle is a waste of time. We know what we want and expect from each other in the roles of husband and wife. We have a clear idea of how we want to build our future, not only for us, but as Harper's parents  and how we plan to do it as teammates. 

     It isn't easy, and we've been stuck in ruts of the daily stress of life, but having a core group of happily married friends and parents we couldn't ask for better role models to learn from. We understand each others Love Languages. 
For Example: 

 HIS: Acts of Service & Physical Touch

- He enjoys coming home to a clean house, me cooking dinner with his laundry and clean socks folded.. knowing I had a long day myself, but the fact that I put in the effort means a lot. 

- He appreciates when I randomly massage his shoulder in line at the grocery store or play with his hair at night in bed. He enjoys holding hands in the car or his ears being played with (something he has done since he was little)...

HERS: Words of Affirmation & Quality Time

- To me, the little things are the biggest. When I'm super busy at work and have a second to check my phone, nothing makes my day more than a sweet text from "My Hubby" on my screen.

- Quality Time is HUGE for us considering our schedules are swapped. I work in the morning and he works evenings so our "QT" doesn't happen till about 9:00 and by then we are both exhausted. Him planning a weekend getaway to Austin, us going to dinner and a movie, or even the rare occasion of getting to sleep in on a Sunday and breakfast in bed makes a world of difference. 
 

I know we have technically only been married like 2 weeks, but relationships in general take this much work if you plan on making them last. I love this man and will be by his side thru thick and thin. We want to be the best for each other and are excited to show Harper the meaning of TRUE LOVE!